Single for a Reason

I had just relocated to a new city and was settling in, meeting new people and finding my way. One day I received a Facebook message from an acquaintance I hadn’t heard from in years. At first I wasn’t sure how I knew him but recalled thanks to Facebook we’d met once or twice through friends while I was working abroad. He was writing to say welcome to the state and that he often traveled to my city for work and would I like to get drinks. I said yes. Within two weeks he was in town for work and texted to ask me out. I was surprised by the quickness but said sure! We had a great conversation at drinks, realized we had a ton in common, and he was really cute. He owned his own light bulb company and was knowledgeable about business and worldly. After he walked me home we ended up making out and he left saying he’d see me soon. It was a random and fun date, I was excited to see what might happen.

He went back to his city and proceeded to call me every night to talk on the phone. We’d talk about our days but he’d also ask a ton of “get to know you” questions about everything- likes, dislikes, dating past, family, you name it. It felt very intentional on his part and kind of old-fashioned. I chocked it up to him being a nice Jewish boy. This went on for weeks. At times, I felt weird about it because I didn’t even know him and the efforts on his part were very consistent. I couldn’t remember the last time I had spoken to a guy EVERY night on the phone. It was insane! But it was also sweet and nice in a way. So I took his calls and spent the time getting to know him. After a few weeks he announced he was coming back to my city and it was decided he would stay with me. I wasn’t sure what to expect but prepared for my house guest. The day showed up for him to arrive, he texted me all throughout his drive- he drove 9 hours…

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