This Bed is Occupied

In college I hooked up with girls, as did many other young women at my college. One of my first experiences was with an older girl, let’s call her Elise, who I thought was so incredibly beautiful and awesome. She seduced me quickly and before I knew it, I was driving her car around and sleeping in her room almost every night. I felt that we were serious and she led on the image that we were serious too.

One night I came to her room on a week night after being awake late studying with friends. I climbed in bed and laid there, wide awake and unable to sleep from caffeine. Just as I was drifting off, I heard someone open her door and looked up from bed to see who was coming into the room. Continue reading

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Welcome to my Basement (Don’t Try this at Home)

Below is a conversation with a friend about a date I went on recently.

Me: Want to hear about my most recent date?

Bryan: Of course. You see the most colorful characters.

Me: So, I finally went out with the guy who I affectionately call “the murderer” because of the whole “looking like a murderer” thing when I was visiting the city where he lives.

Bryan: Why exactly would you do such a thing?

Me: Because. Um. Bryan, don’t ask questions I can’t answer.

Bryan: Okay, I’ll stick to questions about colors and ducks.

Me: Finally. That’s all I’ve ever asked of you. Anyhoo… I was supposed to meet him at his place and then we were going to get some food nearby. When I get there, he’s on the phone with a finger up for me to wait. For 5 minutes. It was kind of rude considering I hardly know him. But, whatever.

Bryan: STOP. You lost me at “I was supposed to meet him at his place” and “So, I finally went out with the guy who I affectionately call “the murderer” because of the whole “looking like a murderer” thing when I was visiting the city where he lives.” Why the fuck would you go near Red’s house when you could end up like a duck?

Me: I refer you to my previous request.

Bryan: What? I phrased it in terms of colors and ducks.

Me: Besides, I only mostly thought he might kill me.

Bryan: Sigh. Audible sigh.

Me: Focus, Bryan. Anyway – we go around the corner when he finally gets off the phone, and he proceeds to freak the eff out when his favorite vegan food truck was gone.

Bryan: STOP. You lost me at vegan. Continue reading

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Words of Wisdom from Lady Gaga

Sometimes we are in relationships where we are not treated well. In fact, sometimes we find ourselves in relationships where we are treated terribly- our goals undermined, our confidence ridiculed. To that, we offer you words of wisdom from Lady Gaga herself. If she’s been there, we all have.

Quoted in NY Daily News back in 2010 she stated, “I had a boyfriend who told me I’d never succeed, never be nominated for a Grammy, never have a hit song, and that he hoped I’d fail. I said to him, ‘Someday, when we’re not together, you won’t be able to order a cup of coffee at the fucking deli without hearing or seeing me.”

And look at where she is now. On. Top. Of. The. World. BOOM.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Have faith in yourself and your dreams, and don’t let anyone tell you you’re not good enough. In the end, you’re all you need.

Xo

SFAR

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Faces of Rejected Bachelors

We have a soft spot for The Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise, particularly this season. We love spirited, single mom Emily Maynard’s season for it’s unique and completely different approach. How could we not? Emily takes the task at hand seriously and has focused much of the season on uncovering what the bachelors are like not in helicopters or skinny dipping sessions, but in her home town, helping out with errands, meeting her friends. She wants a real man and a REAL relationship. And we love that.

One of the funniest parts of the episodes of both The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are how the contestants behave when they are eliminated from the show. Continue reading

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Lady Aiko Mural on Houston and Bowery

Last night I paid a visit to the mural wall on Houston and Bowery on the Lower East Side in Manhattan. Artists rotate in painting their unique creation on the public wall for a period of months. This time the artist is Ms. Aiko Nakagawa, the wall’s FIRST female artist to be featured in this now iconic location. Crazy. Known as “Lady Aiko”, her mural is AWESOME. It’s totally rad and with the kisses and quotes, it’s most definitely got a touch of SFAR spirit in it. The mural wall is huge, but here’s a sneak peek:

Love it!!! New Yorkers and visitors alike, we hope you make it down to visit this public artwork.

To check out Lady Aiko’s website: click here

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Lyrics From an 8 Year Old

I picked up these lyrics from the little girl I babysit. Apparently break-ups happen at every age. SFAR

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