Since SFAR is a blog dedicated to sharing stories of the single life, it’s only fitting that we have thought a lot about what to say on the subject of Valentine’s Day. Yes, Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday that really holds no significance. It is also, however, the fastest way to split the American population into two camps: Single and In a Relationship. It also creates anxiety and questions like “Why am I single?”. You might be tempted to feel down about your single status today, but here are some alternative things to do today that will turn that frown upside down:
– Turn up the jams. Music has been scientifically proven to elevate moods, and what better way to love your single self than by listening to your favorite music? Whether on your ipod, radio, computer or stereo at home, pump those jams and dance it out.
– Rearrange your room or apartment. Turn on some of your favorite music and embrace the uplifting effect of decorating! Seriously, it can really change your perspective and let you fall in love with your space. Buy flowers and put them in a vase in your room. Flowers always lift spirits and make a space even lovelier.
– Break out your favorite comedy films. We love to laugh, and since you’re reading this blog, we’re guessing you do too. What better night than to kick back with a beloved comedy- either one you love or haven’t seen before but have been meaning to. Just make sure it isn’t some lame rom-com.
– Work out. The endorphins from working out will boost your energy, and the jamz you choose (our personal choice: “Pretty Girl Rock” or anything by Pink) will make you feel great! A dance class or other aerobic class can be a great option too. If there’s not one nearby, dance in your room!
– Watch an episode of Hoarders or Toddlers in Tiaras. This will make you feel much better about your life, even if you are on your couch with a bottle of wine or a box of cookies, just remember you could be in this situation:
– Go get drunk with your girlfriends. This is one of the few free passes you have all year to go get hammered on a weeknight. So grab some single ladies, go to a bar, and get your drink on. WARNING: If you are a drunk crier and just got out of a relationship, this miiight not be the best option. And choose your venue carefully. The last thing you need is to find yourself surrounded by single douche bags.
– Get off. Let us modify that statement, since we only advocate safe sex. Practice the safest form of sex around… the sex you have with yourself. We could make a joke about stocking up on batteries, but we’re not so crude. Whatever your style, love yourself today.
– Phone date with a friend. In this modern area we all have someone we love living far away. Use tonight to call that person and tell them how much you LOVE them. Catch up on life and make plans to see each other in the near future. Whatever you do, use the phone conversation to connect and feel great. Share recent developments or goals you are working toward. Leave the whining about being single for someone less amazing than you!
– Email your BFFs + family. I have personally sent 10 e-cards today to the people I love the most in my life. My sister, my parents, my best friends. And you know what? It feels great telling them how much I love them and the good times we have. Valentine’s Day is not only for lovers, but for loved ones. Use this opportunity to let the people in your life know you love them. There are many forms of intimacy, not just sex. Share it with your closest friends and family. Paperless Post has a ton of adorable free e-cards you can personalize and send to your nearest and dearest. Check em out!
– Enjoy the inner peace of knowing your life is not constrained by the ball and chain of a DOUCHE BAG guy. Being in a relationship is great. Until it’s not. Trust us on that one. As much as it can be easy to look at people in a relationship and think ‘why isn’t that me?’ step back and realize that relationships are a lot more complicated and often conflicted than appears on the surface. Many of the people you see out celebrating today are just doing it because of the Hallmark expectation society imposes. On the day to day, the majority of relationships are extremely imperfect. Smile to yourself knowing that you don’t have to deal with any of that drama.
Whatever you end up doing today, know that we adore you. Focus on the love you have in your life, and feel happy knowing that this moment is part of your path. We love you and celebrate YOU today!
Xo
SFAR